“The problem for most gay kids is that they can lose their parents whether their parents are hateful or supportive,” says Dan Savage, author, sex columnist and creator of the “It Gets Better Project,” which helps gay teens recover from bullying.
) or their parents have very specific and narrow standards--you wait. You learn what you like, and what you're passionate about, and what you appreciate and love in other people.
But sometimes a parent who is accepting feels like they can’t be critical or interfere, and they don’t fulfill their duties as parents any more than the hateful parent does.” Savage, who has a son with his gay partner, says that he frequently hears stories about parents who are afraid to tell their gay son that they don’t approve of his boyfriend for fear of sounding intolerant or who help their gay teen sneak into gay bars by securing them a fake ID — a double standard that he finds frustrating.
“You’ve got to parent your queer kid like you would any other kid.
You can be bi without dating/ being sexual — when you know, you know."— alexl4663d0ce9 "Bisexuality is real and it is a spectrum. If you don't fit the black and white of these identities, that's OK — you just might fit in the gray area."— Britt Lynn Moeske, Facebook "You’re not broken or lying or any of the negative things people might say if you identify as asexual or anywhere on the asexual spectrum. We’re here."— Fragile Winchester Feelings "I spent weeks agonizing in silence over my identity because it went against everything I had been taught growing up and I just didn't know how to handle it at all.
I eventually found refuge in a queer tinder match and even just that stunted coming out conversation with a stranger helped me beyond measure."— Kiegin Evertz, Facebook "I also wish that I knew that it was okay to talk to your partner if something about sex didn't feel good.